Friday, October 31, 2008

What is the Greenhouse Effect?

After 150 Years of Industrialization, Climate Change is Inevitable

The “greenhouse effect” often gets a bad rap because of its association with global warming, but the truth is we couldn’t live without it.

What Causes the Greenhouse Effect?
Life on earth depends on energy from the sun. About 30 percent of the sunlight that beams toward Earth is deflected by the outer atmosphere and scattered back into space. The rest reaches the planet’s surface and is reflected upward again as a type of slow-moving energy called infrared radiation.

As it rises, infrared radiation is absorbed by “greenhouse gases” such as water vapor, carbon dioxide, ozone and methane, which slows its escape from the atmosphere.

Although greenhouse gases make up only about 1 percent of the Earth’s atmosphere, they regulate our climate by trapping heat and holding it in a kind of warm-air blanket that surrounds the planet.

This phenomenon is what scientists call the "greenhouse effect." Without it, scientists estimate that the average temperature on Earth would be colder by approximately 30 degrees Celsius (54 degrees Fahrenheit), far too cold to sustain our current ecosystem.

How Do Humans Contribute to the Greenhouse Effect?
While the greenhouse effect is an essential environmental prerequisite for life on Earth, there really can be too much of a good thing.

The problems begin when human activities distort and accelerate the natural process by creating more greenhouse gases in the atmosphere than are necessary to warm the planet to an ideal temperature.

  • Burning natural gas, coal and oil —including gasoline for automobile engines—raises the level of carbon dioxide in the atmosphere.
  • Some farming practices and land-use changes increase the levels of methane and nitrous oxide.
  • Many factories produce long-lasting industrial gases that do not occur naturally, yet contribute significantly to the enhanced greenhouse effect and “global warming” that is currently under way.
  • Deforestation also contributes to global warming. Trees use carbon dioxide and give off oxygen in its place, which helps to create the optimal balance of gases in the atmosphere. As more forests are logged for timber or cut down to make way for farming, however, there are fewer trees to perform this critical function.

  • Population growth is another factor in global warming, because as more people use fossil fuels for heat, transportation and manufacturing the level of greenhouse gases continues to increase. As more farming occurs to feed millions of new people, more greenhouse gases enter the atmosphere.

Ultimately, more greenhouse gases means more infrared radiation trapped and held, which gradually increases the temperature of the Earth’s surface and the air in the lower atmosphere.

Carbon Dioxide Emissions are the Biggest Problem
Currently, carbon dioxide accounts for more than 60 percent of the enhanced greenhouse effect caused by the increase of greenhouse gases, and the level of carbon dioxide in the atmosphere is increasing by more than 10 percent every 20 years.

If emissions of carbon dioxide continue to grow at current rates, then the level of the gas in the atmosphere will likely double, or possibly even triple, from pre-industrial levels during the 21st century.

Climate Changes are Inevitable
According to the United Nations, some climate change is already inevitable because of emissions that have occurred since the dawn of the Industrial Age.

While the Earth’s climate does not respond quickly to external changes, many scientists believe that global warming already has significant momentum due to 150 years of industrialization in many countries around the world. As a result, global warming will continue to affect life on Earth for hundreds of years, even if greenhouse gas emissions are reduced and the increase in atmospheric levels halted.

Monday, October 27, 2008

10 Ways to Boost Your Memory

Have you ever lost your reading glasses and then found them on top of your head? Have you ever gotten your kids off to school, only to find their lunches still in the refrigerator?

If so,……. you're not alone. According to experts, many of us have minor problems with recall as we age.

The good news?..... The brain, like a muscle, can be "flexed" and enhanced through regular activity. To get started, incorporate these simple activities into your daily routine. You'll be fighting forgetfulness, sharpening your memory, and boosting your brainpower in no time.

1. Play Mind Games

When planning a busy day, tie all of your tasks together through creative visualization. If you're worried you'll forget to buy a loaf of Italian bread, visualize yourself slicing it before that big spaghetti dinner. Crossword puzzles, word searches, and Sudoku are also great ways to keep your brain healthy.

2. Exercise Your Eyes

Scan a room for at least 30 seconds before making your entrance. In a recent study, British researchers found that this exercise helped subjects to retain words, including names, that they were about to hear. The horizontal movement of the eyes causes the brain's hemispheres to interact, triggering memory retrieval.

3. Meditate

Studies show that meditating for at least 10 minutes before a big meeting or lecture can significantly increase your attention span and memory. Simply sit or lie on the floor in a dark room, place your hands on your stomach, and focus on your breathing.

4. Get Your Z's

Get a good night's rest, and your brain will thank you. Research shows that the cerebellum, the part of the brain that controls speed and accuracy, is especially active following a full eight-hour slumber.

5. Mix It Up

Try brushing your teeth with the opposite hand, or take a new route to work. Making small changes to vary your routine stimulates nerve cell growth in the braingrowth that's essential to memory retention.

6. Get Moving

A recent Columbia University study found that exercise triggers neuron growth in a region of the brain associated with normal, age-related memory loss. It doesn't have to be a rigorous routine; just 30 minutes of brisk walking three times a week will do the trick.

7. Take Memory-Enhancing Minerals

Studies are shown that a reduced iron intake can have a detrimental effect on IQ levels and cognitive function. A lack of iron causes low hemoglobin levels, which lowers the supply of oxygen to the brain. To avoid these unfavorable effects, add an iron supplement to your daily vitamin regimen.

8. Drink Coffee

Researchers found that older adults who drank one cup of coffee prior to a memory test performed better than those who drank decaffeinated coffee. That said, the benefits may be limited to regular coffee drinkers; others could suffer side effects such as shakiness, anxiety, or impaired concentration.

9. Chew Gum

Japanese researchers have found that activity in the hippocampus, an important area of the brain for memory, increases while we chew. Recent research suggests that insulin receptors in the brain may also be involved. As we chew, our bodies release insulin in preparation for the food we'll soon be digesting.

10. Take Ginkgo Biloba

The ginkgo is the world's oldest tree and has been used for memory enhancement in Eastern cultures for thousands of years. Studies show that gingko improves blood circulation to the brain by dilating blood vessels and increasing oxygen supply. Gingko is also known for its ability to wipe out harmful compounds known as free radicals, which are thought to damage brain cells. The advised supplement dose is 120mg a day.

How to Make a Great First Impression

First impressions can be quite important.
Everyone stereotypes everyone on first impression, even if we are reluctant to do it. We all get a first impression of a new person that creates a mental image of his or her personality in our minds.
That image of you often lasts and can affect the relationship that follows.

Another thing is that we often play different roles in relationships. With our parents we play one role, with friends another, with someone we are interested in/in love with a third, when shopping for clothes in a store a fourth. And so on.

A good or great first impression can create a positive role in the minds of the new people we meet. When we meet them again, we are often drawn back into this role. Sometimes it happens almost unconsciously until you after a few minutes notice that you have fallen into your old role - like when you meet friends you haven’t seen in years - in that dynamic once again. You may not always be drawn into that role. But if you do it sure is better to have a positive than a negative role saved for you.

Act as if you are meeting a good friend

If you just imagine that the person you have just met and are talking to is one of your best friends you’ll probably adjust unconsciously and start to smile, open up your body-language to a very friendly and warm position and reduce any nervousness or weirdness in your tone of voice and body-language. Don’t overdo it though, you might not want to hug and kiss right away.

The nice thing about this is that you may also start to feel positive feelings towards this new person, just as you do with your friend when you meet him/her. This is a pretty good starting-point for getting them to reciprocate and for developing a good relationship.

Keep you body language open

Smile. Don’t cross your arms or legs. Turn your body towards the people you’re are shaking hands with or talking to so that your body language is friendly and open. Make relaxed eye contact – don’t stare – when talking or listening. Don’t look the person in the eye all the time. When you break eye-contact try to do it kinda slow, don’t let your eyes just dart away. Making eye-contact can be a bit hard or scary but if you work at it you’ll get used to it.

Stand up straight
Keeping a good posture certainly improves on the impression one makes. Don’t slouch. Sit or stand up straight.

Be positive
Sometimes you can go in all positive in a first meeting. Sometimes it may not be the best approach to go in too positive as it can be seen as bit abrasive or inappropriate. A better way to convey a positive attitude in a first meeting can then be to read the mood of person(s) before you start talking – by just watching them - and then match it for a short while. Then - when you have an emotional connection and the other person feels you are similar to him/her - you can let your positivity arise a bit more.

Regardless if you start out positive from the get-go or a short, short while into the meeting, be sure to positive. If you, for instance, start a first meeting by complaining, there’s a big chance the people you meet will mentally label you as a complainer or a negative person.

Don’t think too much
Try, as much as possible, to stay outside of your head and focus on the people you are talking to rather than focusing on yourself.

Mentally rehearse before you even enter the room

Visualize how great the events will unfold - see and hear it - and also how great will you feel at this meeting.

See yourself smiling, being positive, open and having a great time. See the excellent outcome in your mind. Then release by visualizing that it has already happened, that the meeting is over with the desired result. This is surprisingly effective and will get you into a great and relaxed mood before even stepping into the first, second or twentieth meeting.

Also, as long as you try to use the first and the last point it doesn’t really matter too much what word or phrase you use to start the conversation.

The words are only 7 percent of your communication. 93 percent is in your tone of voice and your body-language.

Saturday, October 25, 2008

Can owning a pet help you live longer?

People love their pets. You consider the fact that owning a pet could very likely add years to your life, a pet can quickly seem like a wise investment.

Study shows that followed more than 4,000 cat owners over 10 years, owning a cat can dramatically reduce a person's chance of dying from heart disease. Specifically, people who owned cats were 30 percent less likely to suffer a heart attack. Although those researchers cannot make the same conclusions about dogs based on the data they gathered, they suspect a dog study would provide similar results.

That study merely adds to the existing evidence that shows how animals can benefit human health. For example, psychologists have found reason to believe that owning a dog helps lower your blood pressure and your cholesterol . And other research shows that pets help us feel better overall and help us to deal with stress, which can be a source of illness.

And let's not forget the benefits for the elderly. For example, one study observed neural activity in seniors while they walked or interacted with a dog. It turned out that walking with a dog gave seniors a boost in parasympathetic nervous system activity, which is good because the parasympathetic nervous system helps calm and rest the body.

For whatever reason, pets certainly can have a special effect on their owners and amazing ability to improve their health. Is it really possible for a dog to foresee its owner's seizures and even detect cancer?

Other Health Benefits of Pets

Stories abound about the healing abilities of pets. For instance, one boy who did not talk for six years finally chose to start talking after a therapy dog visited his school. Train dogs to help disabled people perform tasks. The Delta Society feels so strongly about the health benefits of animals to humans that it is dedicated to spreading knowledge about the issue as well as services.

The psychological benefits of pets can make a big difference in someone's life. This seems to be especially true for kids who are struggling to deal with death or illness in the family. Certain studies have concluded that children with dogs cope better with these serious situations. Researchers believe this probably has to do with the obvious fact that pets provide love and with the fact that the structured routine required for taking care of a pet is a positive for the child. Kids aren't the only ones who benefit from pets during these difficult times; the spouses of cancer patients said they believed pets helped them cope as well.

The health benefits of dogs go beyond psychological factors. As it turns out, dogs might be useful in the field of medicine to detect and predict medical problems. In one study, trained dogs were able to identify patients with bladder cancer by smelling their urine. Although the dogs were not accurate all the time, they identified the right patients at a rate much better than chance. This revealed surprising evidence for the use of dogs as well as further knowledge about the effects and detection of bladder cancer.

What's perhaps more amazing, however, is that certain dogs can predict when their owner is about to suffer an epileptic seizure. Trainers can teach some dogs to help a person in various ways during a seizure. In addition, some of these dogs end up developing the mysterious ability to actually warn the owner before he or she suffers a seizure. The group that trains these dogs claims that most dogs develop the prediction abilities within merely a year of being with their owner.

Researchers are at a loss to explain how exactly dogs can do this.

The Missing Ingredient to Success

“Love yourself, for if you don’t, how can you expect anybody else to love you?”

The missing ingredient to success is Self-Esteem!!!! Self-esteem is a mix of confidence, positive feelings about yourself, and an ability to grow as a human being. Self-esteem is really one of the most important things you can cultivate in your life. Your life can essentially be condensed to how you feel about yourself, because it often permeates throughout the rest of your life.

People with high self-esteem perform better in life, are happier, and have more fulfilling relationships. But developing self-esteem is harder than you might imagine, because it means battling your inner demons.

It also means trusting yourself, instead of trusting the opinions of others. It means putting your goals and dreams before those of others. That might sound selfish, but until you feel fulfilled and proud of yourself, you won’t be able to help others.

We Are All Born with High Self-Esteem

Little kids are very confident, and they hold themselves in high esteem. It is only after they grow up that they start to lose their innate power. Self-confidence really is power. Children hear other people talk about themselves negatively, and they start to ask themselves questions about their own worth.

Children are then exposed to advertising, which convinces them that they are not whole and complete beings until they buy certain products. How many times have you seen a child beg for a toy, and a few minutes later tell their parents that they are bored? It’s not that the toy is bad, it’s that he was convinced that he would be able to find joy from an outside source.

How To Get More Self-Esteem

Love Yourself

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha

Self-esteem starts with love, and if you don’t love yourself then who will? I have seen love transform people many times in the past. One man I know decided to take care of himself, and really tune into his best qualities, thus loving himself more. Suddenly the was pulled into a loving relationship, got a job offer, and moved into a better apartment. Loving yourself is so powerful that it will literally transform your life, starting by increasing your self-esteem.

Choose the People Around You

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who

matter don’t mind.” ~Dr. Seuss

To increase self-esteem, spend time with those who make you feel good. Being around people who support you is one of the best ways to increase your self-confidence. If there are people in your life who do nothing but complain, compare themselves to others, and make you feel inferior, it is time to let them go. It can be hard to change your circle of friends, but it is so much better to be with those who accept you for who you are, and who will encourage you to grow as a human being.

Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

“Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.”

Reading women’s magazines and comparing yourself to the models and superstars does nothing to improve your self-esteem. The same goes for comparing your material wealth, or even your moral choices to those of your neighbors. The more you judge others for what they do wrong, or for the possessions they have, the more you weaken your own self-worth. Accepting yourself for who you are, without judgment is one of the hardest and most rewarding things you can do.

Set Goals and Achieve Them

“Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” ~Thomas Carlyle

Setting small goals that you can easily attain will help you build your self-esteem. Once you have managed to attain the simplest goals, continue to push the goals outside of your comfort zone. Each of these small successful events will begin to compound. Soon you will realize that you are a powerful human being, and there is nothing stopping you but your imagination. Just remember that there is a clear difference between achievement and fulfillment.

Thursday, October 23, 2008

9 Ways to Lower Your Cholesterol

Following these simple tips can help you lower your cholesterol levels and your health risks.

Everyone needs a basic amount of cholesterol waxy, fat-like substance found in all cells of the body to function. But if your cholesterol is at an unhealthy level, it could mean you have an increased risk of developing heart disease.

What can you do to keep your cholesterol at or reduce it to healthy levels? Try these nine tips:

1.Eat a hearty bowl of oatmeal for breakfast. Experts praise this fiber-rich dish as a cholesterol-lowering powerhouse.

2.Switch from red meat to chicken or fish, which tend to be lower in fat than beef, for at least a few meals each week. Some fish, including salmon and mackerel, are rich sources of omega-3 fatty acids, which can help lower triglycerides, one of the components of cholesterol.

3.Eliminate or greatly reduce saturated fats. Tasty alternatives to high-fat items, such as low-fat or fat-free milk, reduced-fat cheese, and lean cuts of meat, are readily available.

4.A couch-potato lifestyle is not heart-healthy, so try to exercise at least 30 minutes a day, four days a week. Aim to do some light exercise, such as walking or gardening, every day. Studies have shown that exercise may increase high-density lipoprotein (HDL), also known as good cholesterol.

5.Try olive oil or canola oil in cooking, instead of butter, trans- fat margarine, and polyunsaturated oil.

6.Look for products specifically created for low-cholesterol diets, which include margarines and fruit juices. These foods have been fortified with plant stanols and sterols that help to block the absorption of cholesterol.

7.Use cholesterol-free egg substitutes instead of whole eggs, which are notoriously rich in cholesterol.

8.Check nutrition labels to ensure that foods are low in saturated and trans- fats, and high in desirable components such as fiber and nutrients.

9.Stop smoking and stay away from secondhand smoke. Smoking has been shown to increase cholesterol levels.

Monday, October 20, 2008

10 Reasons to Eat Breakfast

It's often said that breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Find out why it's so important to get off to a good start.

When you're hitting the snooze button for the third time, breakfast is probably one of the last things on your mind. After all, you still have to shower and then race to work in time to make that presentation. But according to experts, letting a hectic schedule force you to skip breakfast could compromise your health.

Breakfast Benefits

The next time you're considering skipping the most important meal of the day, think about the following reasons to get back on track.

  • Food that fuels. A healthy breakfast provides you with enough nutrients to energize your body for hours.
  • Healthier eating habits. Studies have shown that people who eat breakfast consume more vitamins, minerals, and fiber, and less fat and cholesterol.
  • Calorie cutting. People who don't eat breakfast are likely to eat more calories throughout the day than people who skip lunch.
  • Reduced diabetes risk. People who eat breakfast are significantly less likely to be diabetic than those who usually don't, according to the American Heart Association.
  • Weight control. A study by the National Weight Control Registry shows that eating breakfast actually helps keep people's weight down.
  • Increased focus. According to the American Dietetic Association, people who eat breakfast are better able to concentrate and be more productive throughout the morning.
  • Enhanced memory. According to experts, eating breakfast improves memory and learning. In one study, college students who ate a morning meal scored 22 percent higher in a word-recall test than those who skipped breakfast.
  • Better fitness. Researchers believe that people who eat breakfast have higher energy levels and may engage in more physical activity than people who don't.
  • Improved mood. Skipping breakfast can make you feel tired, irritable, or sad. Even grabbing some fresh fruit or a bowl of cereal can help boost your mood.
  • Stress reduction. The time you spend eating breakfast can be relaxing and help you to mentally prepare for the day. Eating breakfast also forces you to slow down, helping you to prioritize.

Keep in mind, however, that all breakfasts are not created equal--a healthy morning meal should be balanced and not too heavy. So, skip the eggs, bacon, sausage, and biscuits, and go for whole-grain cereals with fruit or juice instead. Or opt for an egg-white omelet filled with vegetables.

Monday, October 13, 2008

Save Your Money

Save Your Money………A Way to Live an Abundant Life!
Saving Money has nothing to do with your income... strange huh! Previous generations understood that and lived their lives aware that one ought to conserve, save for a rainy day... we instead spend, spend, spend... what happened?

We could learn a lot from previous generations...

Saving is a virtuous activity………. Living within one's means is good...

Putting money away for a rainy day is admirable...

So what are we to do..............Start saving as a way of life. I don't advocate a radical change but the introduction of "saving a little at the time;" gradual steps will start creating the conditions for change.

Let's try to tackle some of the resistance to saving:

  1. I don't make enough to save …….. You must understand that if you become conscious of "saving" on a monthly basis you will become conscious of your spending. This may mean getting a jar in which you consciously put a Dollar a month away for the first few months... it is the act, the discipline, the awareness that's good; it will trigger the virtuous habits of planning your future. Don't talk yourself into failure because your means a limited. The habit will cause you to bring your consumption into focus and each dollar you keep will help your family prosper.
  2. Get rid of Debt and Save at the same time. This is where I differ with most experts. Most want you to pay off debt first and once you are debt-free to start saving. My approach takes into account that those who do not develop the habits of saving never get to the point of eradicating debt. I advocate that you find a token amount, say $5, and save it every month no matter what, and to take the rest of your additional money towards debt. So if your income is $125 more than your budget, put $5 in a Savings account and $120 towards paying your debt. (You will need to be watchful of your spending in order to consistently live within your means.)
  3. Credit Card Companies are not your friend! (Duh!!!) They lure you to get you... This Gotcha game is evident is how they have reduced the number of days you can pay for your credit card bill. "Once you are on the hook for a large Credit Card Bill they will raise your interest rate at will because something in your credit appeared that they don't like. This is simply extortion.........
  4. Living within your means is good. And yes this means getting new friends if the ones you have don't appreciate this fact about you. You don't needs to buy a $2,000 TV when your budget is barely for $500. There is a great TV out there for you for $500 and you should not feel ashamed of that. And please don't get me started on 0% financing so you can spend more. You don't have to become friends with the Sales Clerk at Best Buy... You don't have to feel a sense of shame because you are not splurging on a Ginormous Big Screen TV. Living within your means is good and don't let anyone out there make you feel bad about it.
  5. Saving is the first step towards financial security... Those who save and start building a nest egg learn not only the value of money but start opening themselves to good investment vehicles. None are possible unless you become a habitual saver. Even buying a home start by pinching your pennies... it is a virtuous cycle that starts the journey towards financial stability.
  6. Teach your kids that it's Good to Save...They will learn from your example. They will learn by how you do things NOT what you tell them... save yourself a lot of grief and practice what you preach... they will mimic the good and the bad in you. Make is a fun activity to put money aside for a rainy day. It that means a Quarter a month - so be it!!!
  7. When shopping learn to say NO!!! Not as a way to deprive yourself or your family but as a sign that you care about them. Learn to say No to Salespeople; if you are in the market for a $300 Washing Machine - say No to anything else. Don't let clerks decide your budget - you do!
    When saying "No" the sales clerks say it firmly, categorically, and clearly. Put aside the misplaced guilt because they pry on that - the worst thing you can say is "I don't know..." might as well give them your wallet and disrobe at that junction.
  8. A survey was done recently on how families shopped at the supermarket and found that many could save between $75 and $100 each month. The biggest culprit was impulse buying; of course a shift away from processed foods to more vegetables, fruits and beans tended to be both healthier and cheaper.

Start Saving your hard-earned money any which way you can - do it intentionally and methodically; your life will change for the better.

Friday, October 10, 2008

Your Enemy Is Insecurity and Neediness

Insecurity and neediness are two of the biggest obstacles to success with women. Insecurity and neediness are two sides of the same coin.

A man is needy when he craves attention or recognition. He shows that he's insecure when he ACTS on these needs.

Insecurity shows up when a man does not feel comfortable with who he is or comfortable in the situation that he's in. He acts tentative, weak, and unsure. He tries to put on a show of confidence that is obviously fake. He says things that are out of place in an attempt to get approval.

Women detect insecurity and neediness INSTANTLY.

Here are some examples of insecurity and neediness to avoid:

  • Hanging on a woman. Don't touch a woman or crowd her too much in the beginning. Women take this as neediness and insecurity. Instead, lean back and let her become comfortable being around you.
  • Talking or saying negative things about women or past girlfriends. If you talk to much about past girlfriends or other women, or say negative things about them, a woman will judge you to be insecure.
  • Having emotional responses to things. If it's obvious to a woman that you will get upset about things easily, then she will judge you to be insecure.
  • Looking to others to make decisions. Women like it when you decide what's going to happen, then do it. If you are always asking "Well, what do you think I should do?" and "Where do you want to go tonight?" and "What do you want?" you'll come off as needy. Just make decisions and go with it. If she has a different idea, she'll let you know.
  • Saying or doing things to just to be noticed or to get compliments. I've known a lot of men who try to act cool or show off to get attention. This telegraphs to a woman that you're insecure and needy. Don't do it. If you're cool, she'll figure it out without you telling her.
  • Arguing. This is my favorite. Some people feel like they need to argue with EVERYTHING. If you're one of these people, just realize that this is a clear demonstration that you're insecure and needy. You may always be right, but being overly argumentative is bad for your sex life. Deal with it. If you really want to argue with something, do it in a funny way, not in a serious way.

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Attention, men! 4 signs that she's into you

You’re at a bar. You notice a woman. She notices you. You move closer, drink in hand. She tosses her hair and crosses her legs. Does it mean anything? You bet. Is it a good sign? Could be, more than 70% of communication between humans is non-verbal, meaning you can learn a lot, and save yourself from potential embarrassment, just by watching a potential love interest. Check out these things you can tell about a woman before she even says word one.

Clue #1: She’s all decked out

What you can tell: According to Patti Wood, body language expert and professional speaker, a woman’s appearance can translate into how much attention she needs, and is willing to give. “When a woman takes care of herself, men assume she’ll be able to take care of them,” she says. That’s the upside. “But if her appearance is perfectly flawless, that is the standard she’ll measure you by,” explains Kevin Hogan, Ph.D., and author of Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. Are you up for the challenge? Because she may well be one high-maintenance woman.

Clue #2: She licks her lips

What you can tell: “There is a certain kind of lip-licking that means she’s interested,” says Wood. “Look for a slow movement of just the upper part of the tongue across the lips. A woman has to make an effort to do that, so it’s very come-hither.” John South, from Charleston, WV, has used the lip-licking theory to his advantage. “There was a woman at a bar who looked at me and then licked her lips,” he explains. “So, I went over to her and asked her if she needed some ChapStick. She knew I caught her, and she was a little embarrassed, but she told me she was glad I came over.”

Clue #3: She tosses her hair

What you can tell: “Any kind of preening is a woman’s attempt to get noticed,” Wood explains. One particularly good sign: “If she flips her hair back with her wrist exposed, she’s opening herself up to you.” In fact, any exaggerated hair toss (as opposed to a quick sweep of the bangs to get them out of the way), is a positive thing. Hair toss has been a good indicator that a woman is interested in him. “One night at a party, I noticed this beautiful woman looking at me, then she looked away and flipped her hair back,” he explains. “I went to talk to her and later found out from one of her friends that she’d been eyeing me all night.”

Clue #4: Her feet face you

What you can tell: “Where the feet go, the heart follows,” explains Wood. “If a woman is into you, the bottom portion of her body will face you. If her lower body is turned away, chances are it’s not shyness, it’s a lack of interest.” Most women have been taught to be polite, so they may turn to face you with their upper bodies, observes Wood. “But the lower body is what separates attraction from civility. Even when she’s talking to other guys, if her feet are pointed toward you, she’s interested. It’s a very good indicator.”

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Body Language Secrets to Silent Seduction

The language of love is largely an unspoken one. Scientists have long studied how humans - and their animal counterparts - attract and hold onto mates by silently, and usually unwittingly, engaging in mating rituals.

Consciously employing in these courtship methods can often result in winning the phone number of that sexy stranger, or keeping your long-term love steamy.

…………….Ready to let your body talk?.................

  1. Work the walk.

Masters of silent seduction know how to make an entrance. They sweep across rooms, wrapped in an air of confidence. If you doubt your abilities to pull of such a dramatic swagger, at least master the basics. Keep your head held up, your shoulders back, and walk with purpose. A mysterious smile playing across your face doesn't hurt.

  1. Keep your Eyes on the Prize.

If eyes are the windows to the soul, make sure your love interest can see into yours clearly. Exchanging glances across the room signals your interest and attentive eye contact during conversation keeps couples close. Let your eyes reflect even your sexiest thoughts. Fix your beloved with a smoldering gaze and let your eyes linger on their sexiest body features. They'll hear you loud and clear.

  1. Reach Out and Touch Someone.

Making love is largely a tactile experience and that's exactly the imagery you hope to purvey in your seduction. Men who touch a woman lightly on her arm to make a point, or delicately take her hand to admire her ring, indicate their desire to get closer and send the very attractive message that they'll treat them just as sensitively when intimate. Women can also crank up their sex appeal without even caressing their crush. Absentmindedly (but not nervously) playing with her jewelry or casually stroking her hair or wine glass can send a powerful visual message.

  1. Get In Sync.

A connected couple instinctively mirrors each others body language. It's as if their bodies are saying "We're one". You can play this trick to help forge a connection - by keeping your body turned towards theirs, leaning forward when they do, and subtly reflecting their actions.